Weddings at All Hallows

 

A wedding is one of life’s great moments, a time of solemn commitment as well as good wishes, feasting and joy. St John tells us how Jesus shared in such an occasion at Cana, and gave there a sign of new beginnings as he turned water into wine.

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude, It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things (1 Corinthians 13.4-7).

Marriage is intended by God to be a creative relationship, as his blessing enables husband and wife to love and support each other in good times and in bad, and to share in the care and upbringing of children. For Christians, marriage is also an invitation to share life together in the spirit of Jesus Christ. It is based upon a solemn, public and lifelong covenant between a man and a woman, declared and celebrated in the presence of God and before witnesses.

On their wedding day the bride and bridegroom face each other, make their promises and receive God’s blessing.

Can I get married at All Hallows?          

 You may be married at All Hallows Allerton if either of you satisfies one of the following criteria: 

 

You normally live in the parish 

You are on the church electoral roll (after attending church regularly for 6 months)

You were baptised in the church

You were confirmed at All Hallows and the confirmation is entered in a register

You have/had a parent or grandparent who was married at All Hallows

You have/had a parent who had his or her usual place of residence in the parish for at least 6 months during your lifetime

You have/had a parent who habitually attended public worship at Church of England services in the parish for at least 6 months during your lifetime

 

What if one of us has been previously married and divorced?

 

Christians believe that marriage is intended to last until one party dies: ‘till death us do part’. This is mainly for two reasons: first, it gives a sense of permanence, and builds trust between the couple, which will enable them to negotiate the difficult periods that occur within any marriage. Second, the Bible teaches that marriage is a reflection of God’s love for and relationship with the church, which, of course, can never be broken because God is always faithful.

That is the ideal! However, as human beings we sometimes fail in this area as we do in any other, and God is all about forgiveness, mercy, blessing and new beginnings. So, since 2002, the Church of England has decided that remarriage after divorce may be possible under certain circumstances. This would need to be discussed personally with a vicar, so please contact either Godfrey Butland or Alan Kennedy. Please  note, it is unlikely that remarriage would be possible if this relationship began during the life of the previous marriage.

Do I need to be baptised?

There is no legal requirement for you to have been baptised in order to get married in church. But if you feel that baptism is something you want to explore, then we are always happy to talk to you about that.

Can I have any date I want?

There can be a few problems about getting the date you want. All Hallows is a very popular church for weddings. The best way to avoid any disappointment is to request your chosen date in good time - the earlier you request a booking the more chance there is that the date and time you prefer will be free.

 

What if I have any special requests?

Sometimes couples have special requests: e.g. they want a friend to sing during the service, or they would like a particular priest to take the wedding, etc. Please advise us of any such requests when requesting your booking. We will do our best to accommodate them. We cannot guarantee that we’ll be able to but we will, of course, tell you very quickly of anything we cannot do.

What will the wedding cost?

The total fees for 2015 are £490.00 plus £60.00 for heating between October and March. If you require the choir, flowers, or wish to video the whole service, further fees are chargeable. A breakdown of all fees can be seen by clicking on this link. The fees increase each year on instruction from Parliament, so we are unable to say what they will be for 2016 and beyond. However, the increases are usually minimal.

We offer wonderful flower arrangements in church and our choir is only too willing to provide the music for your big day (though weekdays may be more difficult for the choir). You may also want to look at our All Hallows Centre pages to see how wonderful it looks when used for a wedding.

What do I do next?

If you want to understand more or are thinking of having your wedding at All Hallows, the next thing to do is to contact Kathryn, our team administrator, who will give you all the assistance you need and take you through the process in more detail.

Kathryn can be reached by email at mhteam@btinternet.com or can be contacted at the team office between 9.45 and 13.15 each weekday on 0151 724 6391.

 There is a very useful Church of England website that will answer many other questions you may have. It will also enable you to plan your own wedding service.